It's one of the most confusing places to be as a parent. The school says your child reads well. They can sound out words, answer questions, move up the levels. And at home, they never touch a book unless someone asks them to.
My daughter isn't there yet. She's five and a half and still being read to. But I write for the readers she'll become, and I hear about this from parents more than almost anything else.
Two different skills
Reading ability is a skill. Wanting to read is another one, and it's rarely taught. School can measure the first. Only the child's own experience can build the second.
A child who reads well but doesn't want to isn't failing. They just haven't found the reason yet. Or they found reading only as work, and have quietly decided that's all it is.
Being able to read is the key. Wanting to read is finding a door worth opening.
Why it happens
- Reading has mostly been something they were checked on
- The books on offer don't match what they care about
- Screens offer the same pleasure faster
- Nobody around them reads for fun where they can see it
- They're tired, and reading still costs them more effort than it looks
What helps
- Follow the interest, wherever it goes: football, dinosaurs, horror, cooking, a game they love
- Let them read “easy” books without comment. Comfort builds speed, and speed builds pleasure
- Read the first chapter of a book aloud, then leave it within reach
- Make room for reading with no screens competing in the same moment
- Let them see you reading something you chose, for no reason except that you want to
What doesn't
Lectures, rewards that run out, reading logs that turn every book into homework, and comparing them with a sibling or a friend. All of these teach the same thing: reading is something other people want from you.
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Ask your child what the best story they've ever heard was. Book, film, game, anything. Then look for a book that feels like it. That's often where the wanting starts.
I read, I choose, and I write about the books that stay with me. I also write The Keeper Chronicles.
Raising readers, one week at a time.
Once a week: a short personal note, one article about reading or family life, one practical idea to try, and a question you can answer just by replying. One email a week, never a sales pitch.
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